ENFPs And The 5 Love Languages

Written by Lacey Ramburger 

Despite the fact that ENFPs can relate to a wide range of situations and quirks, we still have our own distinct preferences in how we do certain things. How we desire to receive and show love plays a significant part in our lives, and even if we share a personality type, the way we express affection can still vary significantly.

The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, breaks down the most common ways we show the way we care and the ways that cause us to feel loved and validated. ENFPs are traditionally a warm, excitable group of people that enjoy showing the way they feel about others- take a look below to see what each love language looks like coming from an ENFP.

Words Of Affirmation

You're always searching for the good in others. You like to give people the benefit of the doubt. While all ENFPs thrive on being recognized, you are more specific in wanting to be known and appreciated for all your eccentricity- and you need to actually hear it.

In a world that consistently asks us to play it cool and pretend we don't care as much as we do, you feel extremely cared for when someone goes out of their way to tell you how they feel- no vague or confusing lines in sight. You spend so much time doubting yourself, hearing the thoughts of others puts you at ease. Plus, given your creative streak, it's likely that when you return the favor and shower others with compliments, they feel genuinely seen and validated, precisely what you set out to do.

 Physical Touch

ENFPs have a stereotype of being very friendly and bubbly, and as such, it's not shocking to people who know you if you are overly affectionate in a physical way. You like to see your thoughts and ideas have a tangible response- you like the immediacy of something. It helps you feel grounded, and it also gives you a sense of security to feel the embrace of a hug or the simple acknowledgment of someone touching your shoulder when they walk by.

You're not physically affectionate with everyone, though- despite your extroverted nature, you only express this side of yourself with those you feel connected to.

Acts Of Service

You're likely a very goal-oriented ENFP. It's also likely you adapted to living in a sensor dominated atmosphere. You have a hard time asking for help, and you never want to burden someone else with your needs, so when someone goes out of their way to help you without you saying anything? It's tough to top that for you.

Plus, you know how it makes others feel to see you step in and take care of certain chores for them. You are considerate, and you don't want to see any of your loved ones struggle with things if you can step in and actively ease their stress in some way.

Gifts

When it comes to receiving gifts, you like them not because of the financial aspect, but because you want to see if people truly know you. You want to be understood. You want to feel as if people see your authenticity because you're often worried you don't come off as such.

On the flip side, you are exceptionally creative; you love showing off your ideas and giving the best gifts. You pay attention to the things others care about because you seek to understand to the fullest extent. You won't merely buy a random candle at the store for the sake of a present- if you are going to give a gift, it will be well-thought-out and probably a bit ambitious to pull off.

Your gifts are likely to be more experience-oriented rather than typical items you wrap in a box because you want to create moments people can't forget.

Quality Time

You want to be accepted for who you are probably more than other ENFPs. You often feel all over the place pondering your complexities, and the intricacies of life, but you want someone to share it with you.

If someone takes the time to sit with you and listen to all the thoughts going on in your mind, or do something with you that you are excited about, it makes you feel appreciated and secure in a way nothing else does. You are just as thrilled to return the favor, especially given your curious nature, always seeking to understand.

You're at your best when you're with one or two others able to dive in and share your thoughts without reservation. You often feel conflicted because, as an extrovert, you can absolutely enjoy and gain energy from being around a large group of people. Yet when quality time is your love language, it truly highlights one of the seemingly contradicting parts of being an ENFP; You want the intentional connection, not just being in the same room.

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