How ENFPs Accidentally Ruin Their Lives

Look, I'd write an intro to this article but I know you wouldn't read it. So let's get right down to it. Are you an ENFP? Stop doing this stuff. Seriously, stop it. You have too damn much to give to the world. 

1. They internalize the message that succeeding means having to conform. They learn to dull their passions, ignore their impulses and temper the parts of their personalities that want to shine brightest. Instead of showcasing their brilliance to the world, they starve it away in silence - assuming no one else is hungry for what they have to offer.
   
   
2. They take advice from people they wouldn’t want to become. Instead of taking direction from the dreamers, the doers and the disruptors of the world, they listen to the cautious, the unconscious and the meek. They underestimate the impact they could have on others and resign themselves to playing it small. They ignore the voice inside their mind that continuously tells them to aim higher.
   
   
3. They adopt the belief that they are broken. Instead of grappling with the injustice around them, they decide the problem must be their judgement. They learn to numb the sensitivities that guide them, repress the impulses that would grow them and turn a blind eye to the issues that their heart is screaming at them to address. Rather than becoming the change the world desperately needs, they convince themselves they’re crazy for perceiving it in the first place.
   
   
4. They stop living for themselves. They decide that they are meant to play a background role on the stage of their own life, rather than placing themselves directly in the centre of it. They learn to adapt, respond and disappear instead of imagining, creating and inspiring. They fail to realize how intensely the people in their lives need them to start shining - not just for themselves. But for everyone around else who is watching. 
   
   
5. They ignore their inner wisdom. They hyper-rationalize each decision instead of listening to the part of them that already knows what’s true. They follow the logical or sensical route despite being born for the wild and unconventional. They live a parallel life inside their minds in which they follow each alternate reality - the ones that are crazy and extravagant and aligned with their soul’s true purpose. They convince themselves those things are too good to be true (they're not).
   
   
6. They conform to the chaos around them. They accept that the world is shrouded in darkness instead of realizing that they were put here to light it up. They hide the energy, enthusiasm and depth they have inside of them, at risk of upsetting the status quo. They don't realize that the status quo needs to be upset. They don't realize that the change the world's been waiting for is them. 
   
   
7. They underestimate how easy things could be. They believe that thinking differently, feeling more intensely and behaving in an inconsistent way means they’ll be held back in life. They fail to recognize that these traits are also their greatest strengths - that they can learn more, feel more and create more in a minute than others may be able to over the course of an entire lifetime. The ENFP ruins their own life only insofar as they keep themselves absent from it. Because an ENFP who has stepped fully into their soul’s power is a person whose impact is unstoppable.

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